One of my favorite books is "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman. It's wonderful for marriages as you learn so much about yourself and your spouse and how they tick. There is also a book called "The Five Love Languages of Children" and it talks about discovering those languages in your kids.
I am pretty sure Ryan's love language is quality time (just like his daddy). He loves to spend one on one time with Matt or I and he just gets so much when we take the time to give him our undivided attention. Matt and I have decided that we need to be intentional about spending one on one time with Ryan at least once a week. It can be taking him to breakfast/lunch, go on a walk, run an errand or go to do a fun kid friendly building project at home depot (they have special workshops on saturday mornings just for kids).
Matt took Ryan to breakfast Saturday morning to the Pancake House and he was in heaven. He got chocolate milk (something we only get on special occasions) and chocolate chip pancakes. It was a fun time! Matt said it was great to listen to Ryan talk and spend that one on one time with him. Definitely something we will try to make time for each week.